What you are trying to do is called site-to-site VPN. You need to peer to the public IP of the router/gateway on the far end. The following link has configuration examples for many VPN scenarios. Just select the right option for you.
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Network Object NATTwice NAT / Manual NATRule Types used per SectionNAT
Types used with Twice NAT / Manual NAT and Network Obje...
Table of Contents Introduction:This document describes details on how
NAT-T works. Background: ESP encrypts all critical information,
encapsulating the entire inner TCP/UDP datagram within an ESP header.
ESP is an IP protocol in the same sense that TCP an...