That did it. I downloaded the Widcomm software from the IBM thinkpad support area and eventually got it working (installation and connection had some problems).Now I won't strangle myself when someone comes up to me when I'm on the phone! thanks ...

Turns out that WindowsXP's drivers won't do the job. It will pair and it will connect and it says it's a headset but it doesn't show up as an audio device. Widcomm makes software that does the job. Since the Widcomm software looks for a license fi...